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A Teen Asks:
I have a "friend" who stopped hanging out with
me about 6 months ago. I heard from others that he talked bad about me and
was generally mean. Now, he has started coming around again and wants to
renew our friendship. I really missed him at first but now I’m not so
sure I want to get re-involved.
Ambivalent in Albuquerque |
Christine is a 14
year-old high school freshman.
She responds . . .
Well, I think the question that you have to ask yourself
is, is that friend really the person you want to be hanging with. Do you
really need a friend who is going to go off, stop hanging out with you,
and then talk bad about you? Friendship is about that special bond you
form when you meet someone and you think you have a lot in common with.
Friendship isn’t about what the person buys you; it’s about how they
act towards you and if they are there for you.
I think if this guy just stopped being your friend for no
reason, then he isn’t a friend at all. Then for him to go off and talk
bad about you is even worse because then you will never know if that
person is really your friend. My aunt once told me that you can’t love
others until you love yourself, and he obviously isn’t showing that he
cares. Those kinds of people need someone to talk about, because they feel
horrible about themselves inside. Of course, it’s your first instinct to
help, but they need more. I would just let time take its way through. Give
him a chance to show and prove to you that he has changed. But till then,
I say stay away. |
